***Original post by Joy Pecoraro on Medium.com***
When my grandmother “Mamatita” passed away and I entered a dark state of grief, as part of my recovery, I eventually had to ask myself tough questions in order to understand why I was so impacted by her death. We were always very close and I viewed her as a mother-figure, so naturally, I knew the day she was no longer alive would be a painful time in my life. However, the grief seemed to intensify as time passed and the depression that surfaced was crippling, both emotionally and physically. It was sad to constantly live in this state-of-mind so I turned to anything I could grasp hoping it’d eliminate my depression: therapy, reading, meditation, prescription drugs…if it was recommended, I tried it.
The greatest gift I received as a result of loss was the ability to find myself and in that, infinite love and strength.
The medicine that finally worked required intense introspection over a long period of time. Sadness and grief are dark, but they come bearing many gifts. The greatest gift I received as a result of loss was the ability to find myself and in that, infinite love and strength along with a plethora of lessons my grandmother left behind that I could use for as long as I live. I now know that the universe is precise when it comes to timing and everything is happening for us, at all times. My grandmother’s wisdom remind me that I can fly and trust myself because all of the things I’m searching for already exist and are at my disposal. Her death was difficult to accept because I thought that access to my lifeline had suddenly been taken from me — I wasn’t sure how to survive without her guidance.
Communal division around me is a reminder that genders and race are at war with one another so it’s pivotal that more than ever before, we stand united and choose to promote strength instead of weakness. My grandmother was my biggest supporter and always made me feel that I could achieve anyting I envisioned. Honestly, she was this way towards every woman she came across. Regardless of the subject matter, she constantly reminded female friends and family that they already posessed the traits needed to persevere through their circumstances. She was a woman that didn’t allow others to dictate her path and celebrated being a woman in her professional and personal life.
“Female is my greatest asset” t-shirt was created in honor of my grandmother because if she were alive today, she’d view what is going on in the world as one more reason to promote all of the skills, aptitude and assets that women innately posess.